I'm English, which by American male standards seems to mean I'm either gay or at least effeminate... :)
I think perhaps I made the wrong implication. It's not a case of all women want the same thing and all gay men want the same thing... it's more that *generally*, men respond to visual cues more than women, so there's a tendency for gay men to be better groomed, and groomed in a different way, than heterosexual men. After all, the whole point is to *deliberately* set off other gay men's gaydar, right?
Waffling a bit here, sorry. But yeah, I think there's a myth (actively spread by magazines like Cosmo and Maxim, which are written by the SAME PEOPLE, HMM) that all women want a certain kind of man, and all men want a certain kind of women. Sells more beauty products and fashion, after all.
I don't think men deliberately try to be attractive to males or to females. Gay men, however, can judge their own attractiveness and grooming in a different light. It's difficult for many people to judge attractiveness not holistically.
Oh I don't know about that at all. They might be clueless at it, but they do try. I know for absolutely certain that I started dressing better and grooming more when I wanted to attract my wife. Perhaps it's just that most of them don't start out as disgusting nerds. :o)
I'm Canadian, which is why you being married to someone named "Megan" didn't conclusively demonstrate that you were male :-)
Here's a thought: if we accept the "well dressed gay" stereotype, gays today dress like straight men did fifty years ago, with a lot of attention to fashion and taste. Maybe straight men are so poorly dressed these days because of some obscure homophobic reflex that makes us want to clearly distinguish ourselves from gays?
I dunno, maybe I'm just being judgemental. I'm so sick of homophobia and people calling everything "gay" that perhaps I'm exaggerating things in my mind.
Sorry for hijacking your comments page again, prog... :o)
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I think perhaps I made the wrong implication. It's not a case of all women want the same thing and all gay men want the same thing... it's more that *generally*, men respond to visual cues more than women, so there's a tendency for gay men to be better groomed, and groomed in a different way, than heterosexual men. After all, the whole point is to *deliberately* set off other gay men's gaydar, right?
Waffling a bit here, sorry. But yeah, I think there's a myth (actively spread by magazines like Cosmo and Maxim, which are written by the SAME PEOPLE, HMM) that all women want a certain kind of man, and all men want a certain kind of women. Sells more beauty products and fashion, after all.
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I'm Canadian, which is why you being married to someone named "Megan" didn't conclusively demonstrate that you were male :-)
Here's a thought: if we accept the "well dressed gay" stereotype, gays today dress like straight men did fifty years ago, with a lot of attention to fashion and taste. Maybe straight men are so poorly dressed these days because of some obscure homophobic reflex that makes us want to clearly distinguish ourselves from gays?
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I dunno, maybe I'm just being judgemental. I'm so sick of homophobia and people calling everything "gay" that perhaps I'm exaggerating things in my mind.
Sorry for hijacking your comments page again,