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May. 4th, 2002 12:19 amAndy got his comp copy and immediately noticed that he and Arcus were missing from the acks. I said to him as I said here: Ergh. So, yet another reason to fight to keep the Macnut contract... I'll have second chance this year to write an ack section and stuff in all the names I missed this time. Hmm, when I get a round tuit, I shall make a personal errata section of my P&X page, and they shall be it.
I did manage to finish those chapters, hey hey. I'll get the verdict after the weekend. Meantime, I find myself lined up to write three Network articles, which ain't bad at all. I'll be happy if I can bang one out this weekend.
Wedding update: Earlier this week I finally phoned Peter and presented my dilemma to him. He said that, yes, he'd be disappointed but understanding if I chose to go to my friends' wedding that I was planning on before his event suddenly appeared. I said I would give him my decision later, and hung up thinking: "and now my mom will call me." This happened a half an hour later, and wow, was I taken to task.
Again with their equating the concept of "friends" with "poker buddies" or something similar, leading to flabbergastation that I would even consider attending one of their celebrations over my brother's. I let it go. It was clear that not attending Peter's thing would be held by my family as an unspeakably grave insult, far worse than I had thought. It was time, I conceded, to stop thinking about maximizing fun, and start thinking about minimizing damage.
Today, chatting with Leah, I updated her on all this, and she finally said in so many words: Look, I've been trying to tell you, just go to Peter's wedding. MAN (paraphrase) Suddenly that cleared everything up for me. I've phoned Peter to let him know my intentions this evening, and he was near tears with joy. Furrfu. So, that's all right then.
It's still too bad that I'm trading a Hawaiian wedding bash with friends I haven't seen in years for a grim and dusky ceremony involving a brother I barely relate to anymore and a humorless schizophrenic woman. I'm sure when I'm in the pews, I'll have regrets. But now, tonight, I celebrate the loss of a heavy dilemma, and the knowledge that I'll just have to go visit my southern friends under more joyfully random circumstances, later this year.