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jadelennox post, traced back through in_parentheses to the Salon article about the Ethan Watters book Urban Tribes, which colorwheel once mentioned to me. It gave me a "wow, I thought I was the only one" reaction which the ol' Internet hasn't hit me with in a while, surely.
When asked, I have said that the reason I haven't been actively interested in dating[1] for several years[2] was because my friends, alas, make me feel so socially content that I haven't felt much reason to seek out anything else. I was delighted to see these same thoughts succinctly reflected back in the article's sub-headline, perhaps the first time I've read them anywhere outside my own head. So, yay. (I note that the too-lazy-to-date tangent that I take is orthogonal to, and perhaps even uncommon within, the larger idea; indeed, there are lots of couples and spousal pairs within the group I feel tribiest with).
(FWIW, didn't really read the article, because it looked annoyingly written. (So you're saying it's a Salon article? Oh ho ho, very droll.) But the book it's based on may be interesting...)
[1] Maybe I should say "'dating'" in scare-quotes, since what I really mean is "'seeing someone', a process which may or may not involve actual 'dates'", but I don't know a better word for it. I know enough people who use the word "dating" like this that I tend to use it too, but I don't really like it. How about "having a girlfriend"? That sounds like "having a cow" or something. All is broken.
[2] The last time I "dated" someone (see, that looks so sketchy, with the quotes... I may as well say "The last time I 'murdered' someone"; oh well) was shortly before I got back into computer programming. Aye, before I even knew a lick of Perl. Which sounds, out of context, like a tragic causal relationship, but is actually the start of a story that has been largely a happy happy one, for me.
jadelennox post, traced back through in_parentheses to the Salon article about the Ethan Watters book Urban Tribes, which colorwheel once mentioned to me. It gave me a "wow, I thought I was the only one" reaction which the ol' Internet hasn't hit me with in a while, surely. When asked, I have said that the reason I haven't been actively interested in dating[1] for several years[2] was because my friends, alas, make me feel so socially content that I haven't felt much reason to seek out anything else. I was delighted to see these same thoughts succinctly reflected back in the article's sub-headline, perhaps the first time I've read them anywhere outside my own head. So, yay. (I note that the too-lazy-to-date tangent that I take is orthogonal to, and perhaps even uncommon within, the larger idea; indeed, there are lots of couples and spousal pairs within the group I feel tribiest with).
(FWIW, didn't really read the article, because it looked annoyingly written. (So you're saying it's a Salon article? Oh ho ho, very droll.) But the book it's based on may be interesting...)
[1] Maybe I should say "'dating'" in scare-quotes, since what I really mean is "'seeing someone', a process which may or may not involve actual 'dates'", but I don't know a better word for it. I know enough people who use the word "dating" like this that I tend to use it too, but I don't really like it. How about "having a girlfriend"? That sounds like "having a cow" or something. All is broken.
[2] The last time I "dated" someone (see, that looks so sketchy, with the quotes... I may as well say "The last time I 'murdered' someone"; oh well) was shortly before I got back into computer programming. Aye, before I even knew a lick of Perl. Which sounds, out of context, like a tragic causal relationship, but is actually the start of a story that has been largely a happy happy one, for me.